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Soon-To-Be Mom Defended for Shutting Down Cousin’s Pregnancy Announcement

Members of a popular internet forum banded together in support of one expecting mother who explained how her cousin and aunt brazenly attempted to commandeer her baby shower.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/rainbowbaby2022 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said her cousin learned she was also pregnant weeks before the celebration and detailed the heated aftermath of their attempt at taking over OP’s special day.

Titled, “[Am I the a**hole] for not allowing my cousin to announce her pregnancy at my baby shower for my rainbow baby?” the post has received more than 5,000 votes and 1,000 comments in the last eleven hours.

Writing that it’s taken years for her and her husband to get pregnant, the original poster said she is “very freaking excited” about welcoming her first child and noted that her mother is just as excited, if not more.

“She’s been planning our baby shower and making decorations for months,” OP wrote. “She’s been the biggest help.”

While planning her baby shower, however, the original poster said her cousin learned she was also pregnant and requested to announce the news at the shower. The original poster said she quickly shut down that plan, but explained how tensions came to a head on the day of the celebration.

“Last Saturday was my baby shower!” OP began. “It was everything I’ve waited for.”

“When it was time for us to eat my cake, my aunt said ‘hold on, hold on everyone,’ and went outside to her car,” OP continued. “That was the moment I knew something was up.”

“My mother and I follow her outside, and my aunt decided to bring a cake announcing my cousin’s pregnancy, and some presents for my cousin,” OP added.

Following her aunt’s shocking cake reveal, the original poster said all hell broke loose.

“My aunt started throwing a fit, screaming ‘this is a baby shower, it’s for babies. Cousin is having a baby too, so this day is about her!” OP wrote. “My cousin now joins the screaming and says how pissed off she is that everything is always about me.”

“They would not stop screaming, so they were kicked out by the rec center’s security, and half our family was upset that I wouldn’t let her have a moment at my shower so they left too,” OP continued. “Now everyone is bashing my mother, myself, and rainbow baby on Facebook, group family texts, anything at all.”

Like proposing on somebody else’s wedding day, piggybacking on another expecting mother’s baby shower with a pregnancy announcement is generally frowned upon.

On multiple occasions, women who recently learned they are expecting have taken to parenting website BabyCenter to ask the question: should I make the announcement at an event specifically intended to celebrate a loved one’s pregnancy?

In each case, BabyCenter users were adamant that announcing such big news at an event like a baby shower is disrespectful and is almost-guaranteed to create problems with the soon-to-be mother who was supposed to be the center of attention.

“If a friend of mine did this, I would feel hurt and wonder why she couldn’t have picked any other time,” one user wrote in response to a woman asking if she should announce her pregnancy at her best friend’s shower.

“Don’t be selfish and steal your friend’s day,” the user continued. “Would you announce an engagement at someone’s wedding reception? TACKY.”

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Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum were quick to defend one expecting mother who stopped her cousin from announcing her pregnancy at a long-awaited baby shower.
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Throughout the viral post’s comment section, Redditors echoed this sentiment and defended the original poster and her mother for confronting her cousin and aunt in such a hostile manner.

“[Not the a**hole],” Redditor u/mooseshart wrote in the post’s top comment, which has received nearly 10,000 votes. “Absolutely [not the a**hole].”

“This was YOUR day, that you’ve been trying to make possible for YEARS,” they continued. “If she wanted to steal the spotlight, she should have spent the money, time, and effort on her own…you and your mom are 100 [percent] in the right.”

Redditor u/URSmarterThanILook, whose comment has received more than 5,000 votes, offered a deadpan solution for the conflict between the original poster and her cousin.

“Ask your aunt why she doesn’t love her daughter enough to throw her her own shower like your mom did for you,” they wrote.

“Why doesn’t your aunt feel that her daughter should have her own special day to celebrate? That’s the weird part to me,” Redditor u/No-Policy-4095 added. “You have to share, but doesn’t she see that she’s forcing her daughter to share too?”

In a separate comment, which has received close to 1,000 votes, Redditor u/laude_nam said that the original poster’s cousin and mother should have listen when OP told them not to announce the pregnancy at her baby shower, and called out the rest of her family for their behavior as well.

“When will people get it thru their heads it is inappropriate to co-opt some else’s celebration to make milestone announcements,” they wrote. “To everyone tut-tutting you and your mother, it was not a celebration they planned for their milestone and if someone did it to them they’d be upset.”

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